It is important to acknowledge that children mature at different rates and will all be at different stages but here are some basics to consider.
Four to six
Be able to go to the toilet independently and wash hands.
Get dressed without help.
Seven to eight
Know how to ride a bike without stabilisers, or a scooter.
Hone motor skills by climbing trees safely or structures in playgrounds.
Be able to tie shoelaces.
Learn to swim.
Be able to call emergency number on house phone.
Be able to butter toast, make a simple sandwich and pack school lunch.
Know how to set the table.
Nine and ten
Begin to know how money works. Go into shops under supervision but do simple transactions alone.
Know where the local travel routes are to get familiar with transport.
Be able to run short errands such as going to the post box or taking the dog around the block during the day.
Get involved in the cooking of simple dishes under supervision.
Know how to use utensils such as a grater or peeler.
Be involved in household chores such as loading and unloading the washing machine and dishwasher, mopping the floor.
Be able to change a bed.
Know how to summon help if there isn’t a phone. Be confident enough to go to a neighbour’s home for assistance.
Take control of basic personal hygiene – shower/bath daily, regularly wash hair.
Write a thank you letter or email.
Eleven and twelve
Have the confidence to travel independently. Know the route to take to get to school, whether walking or using public transport.
Know what to do if at risk.
Be able to use a washing machine, choose the correct cycle for the fabric and then iron their clothes.
Have some outdoor camping skills. Including lighting a fire under supervision.
Prepare food independently, follow a recipe and prepare simple meals.
Know good mobile phone etiquette, including how to put a passcode on a phone.
Use an Eftpos card responsibly.
Be able to help gardening, like mowing the lawn, weeding, digging, and planting.
Thirteen to sixteen
Have a bank account to manage money independently.
Prepare main meals independently.
Understand the principles of basic first aid.
Be able to sew on a button.
Meet up with friends independently.
Organise, schedule and be prepared for all activities.
Ros Curtis